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| Ilana Belsky wrote on 19-10-2009 07:55 PM
I've never been 'in love', its not something that I believe in blindly or get burnt over and over.
Is that your problem? Do you fear the rejection of being in love?
Anyway, there is a difference in believing blindly in love and feeling that you would only ever feel the person you are with is the 'silver medal'.
For that I really do feel sorry for you.
To truely believe that any partner means you must be 'settling' is something I really does make me feel sad for you.
I love my friends, not despite their 'flaws' but because of them it makes them who they are.
I also believe that most humans have a great capacity for love.
But not all. I know some other guys who are like you, and it does make me sad.
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I just see things as they are, rather than live in a fantasy land, tbh.
It's completely true that you can't possibly predict how a relationship will go, and to get married to somebody really isn't the cleverest move, and is based on fleeting emotion, at best.
It's not my opinion that it's settling - it genuinely is. You've given up and said "this is the best I can do", coupled with "this person is always gonna be great for me". Both are massively naive, and you'll forgive me if I don't accept sympathy from somebody living in such a mindset. It's akin to having Christians say they feel bad as I'm going to hell. I don't buy their fairy tale, just as I don't buy the marriage one.
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“It is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring.” - Carl Sagan
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