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Hi callers. Was thinking about this last night. I have a few female friends that have used dating sites, usually ending up with more misery than they intended when they joined up due to poor dates, disparity of expectation (sex v relationship) and wanky men. My friends that have used these sites, while not being unattractive, have had a quite sporadic dating history and could be called a little desperate. However, in this age of more accepting views towards internet dating and dating sites, is this seen as a liberating move for women in order to find their true match?
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Liberating, it means we don't have to go out and deal with drunk fucktards in bars/clubs, etc. or get drunk and make stupid spontaneous decisions to go to bed with them immediately sans actually getting to know them in a quieter place.
That said, I know a couple of people who have met some utter freaks through dating sites, but also know of one person who met a really lovely bloke that way.
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ceekay wrote on 07-07-2010 10:19 AM
Liberating, it means we don't have to go out and deal with drunk fucktards in bars/clubs, etc. or get drunk and make stupid spontaneous decisions to go to bed with them immediately sans actually getting to know them in a quieter place.
That said, I know a couple of people who have met some utter freaks through dating sites, but also know of one person who met a really lovely bloke that way.
Yes, a friend of mine has some great stories from her internet dating history including one where she was taken to London zoo for a first date one week and then again the next week by a different guy and had to pretend she'd never been there.
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Have you seen the state of the women on there? :-s
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DMX wrote on 07-07-2010 10:28 AM
Have you seen the state of the women on there? :-s
Was actually looking through Guardian soulmates yesterday and there are some hotties on there. But that is assuming that physicality is the sole facet of attraction and they may be really drippy irl.
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I can see the attraction of dating sites in that you can to some extent weed out certain types and forgo the early introduction stage, at least you should know something about your date rather than a random in a bar or club.
I think it becomes more attractive to those of "a certain age" and with that in mind those looking for something longer term. I don't think it's a desperate act but one of convenience for both men and women. That's not to say desperation isn't a factor.
Having said all that I doubt I'd use one should my situation be different.
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I think the reason it becomes more attractive to those of a "certain age" is because random wanton shagging is no longer quite as desirable, and glasses of wine/gin/ are preferable to shots, etc. Bear in mind that the majority women start looking for stability and think about settling down and the future so in a sense (and I'm cringing as I type this) dating sites are like interviewing techniques
Also, it's pretty hard to pick up guys in museums and galleries without looking really desperate, so the alternatives are date nights or friends of friends, etc.
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