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Long time Lurker wrote on 08-11-2016 02:17 PM
The last thing I would call it is selfish pal. Sounds like you were in a pretty dark place.
Thanks! Yeah it was. At the same time though my head was just OBSESSED with celebrities, as I genuinely though they were my family, and it was really exciting haha! So it wasn't all doom and gloom. Just very lonely at times.
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DJ Sketchy wrote on 08-11-2016 02:13 PM
Well, I apologise to all women if my comment caused upset.
I'm just trying to teach you something here that will hugely benefit you in your life.
That sort of thing is NEVER acceptable, unless perhaps to your actual girlfriend/partner/whatever if she's ok with that sort of banter - it's especially unacceptable to women you don't know, regardless of their 'celebrity' or otherwise status.
Stuff like that makes women nervous. Especially a women who may be on their own with you and they don't know you - the reason we may not react, or possibly laugh nervously and try to change the subject, is because of the potential for things to escalate. By that , I mean that at the back of any woman's mind in a situation like that is "don't aggravate or inflame the situation, this guy could erupt and things could turn bad / he could hurt me".
I'm NOT saying you would do anything like that - at all. What I am saying is that the potential for thing to turn ugly is *constantly* at the edges of our awareness, as women.
Don't be that person who makes us feel like that - even if you didn't intend for it to come across that way. Their celebrity status does not give you some sort of ownership over them just because you're emotionally invested in them.
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Coops wrote on 08-11-2016 02:15 PM
I didn't mean it that way. I meant that they are probably used to that sort of behavior and accept that it is an inevitable part of such publicity stunts. In no way am I suggesting that they should have to accept it or that such behavior is acceptable.
I know that - I got called out for victim blaming initially when stating that putting nude pics of yourself in the public domain can come back and haunt you because people can be cunts and it's just easier to not put the pics anywhere public.
Women should not have to get used to rapey comments / behaviour based on what they wear or how they look. That's the whole point of the current movement which is now being derided as uber feminism by men who don't understand that we are not objects.
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DJ Sketchy wrote on 08-11-2016 02:20 PM
Thanks! Yeah it was. At the same time though my head was just OBSESSED with celebrities, as I genuinely though they were my family, and it was really exciting haha! So it wasn't all doom and gloom. Just very lonely at times.
You'd be surprised at how lonely some celebrities are despite being constantly surrounded. I'm glad you've got it sorted. And I don't mean to belittle it, but it does sounds like it could have been entertaining at times, meeting some of them. Although perhaps that may have compounded the problem a little.
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[Edited by DJ Sketchy on 08-11-2016 14:41 PM]
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Fi wrote on 08-11-2016 02:22 PM
I'm just trying to teach you something here that will hugely benefit you in your life.
That sort of thing is NEVER acceptable, unless perhaps to your actual girlfriend/partner/whatever if she's ok with that sort of banter - it's especially unacceptable to women you don't know, regardless of their 'celebrity' or otherwise status.
Stuff like that makes women nervous. Especially a women who may be on their own with you and they don't know you - the reason we may not react, or possibly laugh nervously and try to change the subject, is because of the potential for things to escalate. By that , I mean that at the back of any woman's mind in a situation like that is "don't aggravate or inflame the situation, this guy could erupt and things could turn bad / he could hurt me".
I'm NOT saying you would do anything like that - at all. What I am saying is that the potential for thing to turn ugly is *constantly* at the edges of our awareness, as women.
Don't be that person who makes us feel like that - even if you didn't intend for it to come across that way. Their celebrity status does not give you some sort of ownership over them just because you're emotionally invested in them.
Fair enough! My brain thinks very erotically though. Through my crazy years I actually met an erotic author, Shelby Kent-Stewart her name is. The FIRST thing I did was talk REALLY dirty to her, and she LOVED IT HAHA. We are very close now. She lives in America though...
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You actually scare me.
Which is quite something in itself.
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DJ Sketchy wrote on 08-11-2016 03:15 PM
You're all gonna go ape over this one...
I've been in a relationship with a celebrity since she was 17. Stella Hudgens her name is, she's sister of Vanessa Hudgens from High School Musical. She asked for business proposals when she was 17 on Twitter, so I emailed her this... The picture is hers.
This is Stella
These are the 18 red roses I sent her for her 18th birthday. Again, the picture is hers.
She's 20 now. I've emailed her nearly every week for the last 3 years!
Dude - you're not in a relationship with her.
You're a fan boy - a correspondent; a pen pal; whatever, which is fine. But you are not "in a relationship" with her. Especially if you're still referring to yourself as Jesus.